Thought I would let you know the luncheon for our ministers was beautiful yesterday. A hundred plus people. The food more lovely than even I expected. I could go on and on about this, but that's not the reason for this post.
No paper plates or plastic forks and spoons at this affair. Also no dishwasher. My friend Janice washed every plate and every piece of silverware, plus glasses. Three of us dried and put them away. Several of the ladies made plates for sick and elderly friends that could not attend.
What did the men do? Nothing, I mean nothing. In all fairness Janice's husband Jerry did make and deliver some of the plates, and Scott, our minister, offered to take out the garbage. It was his luncheon, we said no way. Not one of the 40 plus other men offered to move tables, return chairs to the different rooms or blow out a candle. And heaven forbid take out the trash.
Were these men raise in a barn! Is this a community tradition or something. I was more than a little disappointed in the men of our church. Why do wives let their husbands get away with this? You know men have to be told what to do.
Am I wrong here?
Monday, March 14, 2011
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Is this a trick question? ;)
ReplyDeleteI'm pleading the 5th on this one, because if I "go there," I'll never stop.
I am with you. I do have to tell Honey when I want something done. I have noticed however that it is the difference between men and women. We are geared to do several things at once (able to use both sides of our brain at the same time) they sadly are not. One thought at a time is the gearing. I use to be amazed that "they" could not see what needed done and just do it, like women do. It took a while to understand and now I just ask-say what is expected. Ask-say is a man word, used by a woman to get things done. You ask by saying, that is the only way. Oh and the other thing use the word "help" (not as in helpless, you are actually in charge) "would you help by taking out the garbage and stacking up the chairs" or whatever needs done.
ReplyDeletePS your not wrong, you just need a different method :)
i gave up long ago on waiting to get help. i just come right out and dictate what they need to do. and god forbid they don't listen. i can harp. i am a harper. i harp real good!
ReplyDeleteThese must be men with an "old Southern" mindset. I am glad to be able to open your blog. For some reason, I could not open it for about a week.
ReplyDeleteAhh, they sit on their arses because their woman let them, which is just as unacceptable...to me anyway. I can't believe none of the woman didn't march right over to them and tell them to get busy and help! Yeah, that must be a sorry southern thing! Sad!
ReplyDeleteI have to say that when I was growing up my mom's side of the family always had the men eat the family meal first....then the women (who cooked/set up everything) then got to eat. THEN, got to clean up. Whew...I do not like this system or way of thinking.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad the lunch was good and I'm sorry the workload was unevenly taken care of. Sometimes the kind of sharing that we don't want to do is sharing in communal work, whether that community is your home, your church or your office. Some people need reminders about sharing. I need reminders when it's time for snow shoveling, that's for sure.
ReplyDeletei don't blame you for venting! i think that goes way back further than a wife... think mom and dad didn't do their job raising some boys with better manners. i know a lot of guys and they would never dream of sitting around while all that was being done. also, sounds like "old school southern". hope you feel better after the vent and hope some of those guys got an ear full when they got home.
ReplyDeleteJoe wouldn't have offered either. He believes his job is to provide food & warmth...like the caveman. ...:)JP
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